Business as usual

After talking to my best friend Mary, I've decided I'm just going to keep on - business as usual except for any sensitive subjects. There's not much going on the adoption front right now so it shouldn't be an issue. We're just waiting on final approval from the adoption board and then we are done! Yes, folks, I said DONE. We were told that within 2-3 months after the final post adoption home study, our approval should come in. At that point, we are legally able to petition to our state court for finalization. I think it's going to be strange to not have anything to wait for. Doesn't it seem like D & I have always been waiting for something?

I have to share a story that would explain my cautiousness. I am a member, rather lurker, of a Thai adoption group and have been since we decided to adopt. Last year, a member of the group, had to do the unthinkable and send her child back to Thailand. It's a rather long story and my details are fuzzy. The gist of it is she was a 15 yr old girl with special needs. The adoptive mom was posting on the boards. Rubbed somebody wrong. Next thing you know, rumor had it that some not so nice things were found out about the mom and someone reported it to their adoption agency. Yes, power of the internet is amazing. I remember thinking, "Ah, porn. Yes, it must have been porn. You dirty girl!" But would you believe I was wrong, turned out the mother had put out an ad looking for some "girly love", I believe she was married at the time. Interesting...

After the agency was informed, they stated that they had no choice but to send the child back to Thailand. It was really such a sad situation. The 14 yr old had been with this family for awhile, over 6 months and possibly almost a year (like I said, my details are fuzzy- the memory isn't so hot these days). The girl did not want to go back. Not to mention when she did go back to the children's home that it would be awhile before she got adopted or possibly not adopted at all - things aren't quick in the adoption world- a 15 yr old isn't exactly what people have in mind when they adopt a child. Nevertheless, that is what was done. I believe the last I heard was the girls was doing okay. She's still in the home but doing okay.

Don't get me wrong, I don't have any ads posted and no, no porn either, thank you very much! We don't have anything to hide but you can never be too cautious either. Hmm, that's a contradiction isn't it? Anyway, it just makes you think twice.